Words of Encouragement

Words of Encouragement

Two seemingly unrelated events over the past week—a fire and a conversation—have demonstrated to me the power of support and encouragement from those around you.

Written By

Rob Deemer

I was intending to write this week’s column on some substantial aspects of the composer’s place in our society (or rather the invisibility of our profession, if one is to gauge things from the latest NEA statistics), but I’m sure that topic will keep for a later time. Instead, I wanted to reflect on two seemingly unrelated events from the past week—a fire and a conversation—that have demonstrated to me the power of support and encouragement from those around you.

Before I crawled into my dorm bunk last Friday evening, I texted back and forth with my wife for about 30 minutes—we were catching up on what I had been doing here at Interlochen Summer Arts Camp and what she was doing back in western New York state. A few hours later, I woke up to my alarms telling me that I needed to get up early so I could get a head start on some overdue projects. As is my nature, I lazily read through new e-mails and Facebook posts from the night before when I saw that my wife had posted the following image:

Burning house from backyard

Burning house from backyard
Photo by Lori Deemer

Fast-forward through a couple hours of panic and frayed emotions and life began to calm down again. It turned out that the house next door to my house (which had not had any inhabitants for some time) went up in a huge fire the previous evening; our community’s volunteer fire department was quick to act and saved both our house and the opposite neighbor’s house from destruction. Even though our house was spared major damage, both Lori and I were overcome by the offers of assistance, both physical and mental. We’ve seen major disasters and the relief efforts that follow occur on a yearly basis in this country alone, and it was more than a little surreal to be on the receiving end of such gestures. This support from our local and extended communities meant as much as anything to the both of us and it didn’t take long to realize how essential that mental encouragement is when we are in need.

Several days later, I was bringing one of my private composition lessons to a close when I asked the student, a young woman from Tennessee, what got her interested in composition and what kept her interested in pursuing it. She was a pianist and had never been exposed to contemporary concert music or living composers (male or female), but she was lucky enough to have a teacher who had recognized her creativity and encouraged her to start composing. As we talked, it became clear that it was this teacher’s thoughtful support of her student that acted as tinder, spark, and accelerant for the novice creator.

Whether we are at the beginning of a journey (adventure/career/etc.), experiencing setbacks, losing our way, or making the painful realization that the journey needs to be cut short and a new direction is necessary, one through-line is the importance of support and encouragement from colleagues, friends, family and associates. It’s relatively easy to see this at play in many areas of our community, with composers and performers continually intersecting and collaborating through myriad local and regional projects, but it’s also very easy to find examples of musical and careerist myopia that can numb one to the need for giving honest support and encouragement throughout our cultural and educational systems. If my previous week’s adventures and discussions can act as a reminder, then so much the better.